Really well said—I particularly appreciate the part about vigilance stress, that I find really difficult to explain to even the best men in my life. Since the election, I’ve joined the League of Women Voters, specifically to address all of this. I hope to do my part.
Thanks Danielle. Yeah, it's hard to explain that constant state of being vigilant and sometimes I think we don't even realize how stressful it is because it's our normal. Awesome that you joined LWV!
Have you read Ruth Whippman's book BoyMom? It's excellent. And Christopher Pepper's substack is great for info about teens in general and boys specifically.
I've been thinking about how a new baseline level of misogyny + gender-based violence in America could affect women's health. The concept of vigilance stress was not even on my radar but you are 100% right to call this out. And community is a key stress buffer.
I didn't know about that Napoleon quote. No wonder the latest movie portrayed him as such an incel - guess he was the OG one.
Seriously makes my blood boil when I think what women are going through in the US. Hopefully more decent men will also have the backbone to stand up in solidarity and tell their male workmates and friends that Trump winning is irrelevant and that they better keep behaving or else!
Sorry I missed this thoughtful comment earlier. We need men to speak out against the inequity and abuse women face and to address other men’s rage. We need men to be willing and ready to call men out for bad behavior—the more publicly the better. It’s the cultural acceptance of it that’s gotten us to this scary moment. We can’t break out of this system without men stepping up and saying it’s not okay and not a world they want for themselves either. We need men to really understand that every society where women are free is a happier, healthier and more prosperous society. And I truly believe men will be far happier when they can shed their patriarchal shackles too. Thanks for reading and weighing in!
Really well said—I particularly appreciate the part about vigilance stress, that I find really difficult to explain to even the best men in my life. Since the election, I’ve joined the League of Women Voters, specifically to address all of this. I hope to do my part.
Thanks Danielle. Yeah, it's hard to explain that constant state of being vigilant and sometimes I think we don't even realize how stressful it is because it's our normal. Awesome that you joined LWV!
Could I get some links to good resources that deal with raising young men in this shitstorm? I'd love even a starting point - thanks, all. 💥
Have you read Ruth Whippman's book BoyMom? It's excellent. And Christopher Pepper's substack is great for info about teens in general and boys specifically.
So many good points here! And this history--oy.
Thanks Lane. Oy indeed :)
Nailed it, Jo-Ann.
I've been thinking about how a new baseline level of misogyny + gender-based violence in America could affect women's health. The concept of vigilance stress was not even on my radar but you are 100% right to call this out. And community is a key stress buffer.
Thank you. I'm in this fight with you!
Thanks Molly! There are so many ways this will affect women's health. SO MANY. I look forward to reading your take on it or chatting soon!
I didn't know about that Napoleon quote. No wonder the latest movie portrayed him as such an incel - guess he was the OG one.
Seriously makes my blood boil when I think what women are going through in the US. Hopefully more decent men will also have the backbone to stand up in solidarity and tell their male workmates and friends that Trump winning is irrelevant and that they better keep behaving or else!
Fingers crossed! And yeah, Napoleon was a dick 😉
#truth!
I’m with you!
Solidarity JC!
With you fighting forward here in Idaho.
Thanks Jane. And thank you for subscribing ❤️❤️❤️. To fighting forward!!
Sorry I missed this thoughtful comment earlier. We need men to speak out against the inequity and abuse women face and to address other men’s rage. We need men to be willing and ready to call men out for bad behavior—the more publicly the better. It’s the cultural acceptance of it that’s gotten us to this scary moment. We can’t break out of this system without men stepping up and saying it’s not okay and not a world they want for themselves either. We need men to really understand that every society where women are free is a happier, healthier and more prosperous society. And I truly believe men will be far happier when they can shed their patriarchal shackles too. Thanks for reading and weighing in!